I have a friend who loves Yes! In fact, he loves it so much that he has named his consulting business, Live Yes, and…. His name is Travis Thomas and if you haven’t already started listening to his podcasts and daily Periscopes, you are missing out! And he has a book soon to be published too! (Follow this link to find out more about Travis and Live Yes, and…!)
I took a “30 days of Yes” course with him a couple of times. It is a real stretch for the places where I have preferred to settle back to my comfort zone, but even so (and especially because of that) I highly recommend it.
For example, one of the days the assignment is to call someone and tell them you appreciate them. I’m not sure I have done that yet during the course. (I am noticing that some days I just say no. haha!) To be honest, I am not a big fan of talking on the phone, unless someone like my sister calls me and we catch up and talk for quite a while. Otherwise, I have found texting to be a life-saver.
But I have noticed that recently, I have been making more phone calls instead of texting, especially when I am coordinating information or asking questions. I notice more light-heartedness about calling, that I am not as worried about what the other person will think or how I will get off, if the conversation goes too long. I just offer my honest need to go and let it go! Its almost an epiphany to learn that it can be so easy.
Today I had to make several (only 4!) phone calls to professors at a local university for whom I had no email address. On top of that, I had to invite them to an event and explain the purpose while I am still not very fluent in how to discuss it. I had been avoiding it for a few days and finally, today I did it. The first one I got a voice mail and hung up. Then I collected myself and called back and stumbled all over myself but managed to get through it. The second call someone answered! That was almost worse, and I pretty much fumbled around on that call too. By the third and fourth calls I was getting the hang of it and did pretty well leaving messages.
And even though I was a bit embarrassed in the moment on the call with a real person in particular, I was able to let it go immediately afterwards. What would be the purpose of holding onto it? They will either accept our invitation and attend or not. Thats the way of it.
And today, I said YES to walking into my darkness and doing what I was afraid to do, instead of staying in “no” and running from it. It’s a small step, but thats all it takes to move forward….one small step at a time.